Yesterday I bade farewell to a bunch of people that I love. I never thought this moment would arrive in my life when I would stand amidst them and deliver my farewell speech. One more old and comfortable piece of my life being taken away. There will be new friends, for sure, but they might never share with me the same fun during lunchtime, the joy of birthday celebrations and skipping meetings to get some snacks downstairs or the anxiety of walking down the hallway when the big bosses were around.
Don’t we all wish there was a warning sign when something so familiar it seems eternal will happen for only one more time and then become just another memory?
Maybe we would be more prepared. Maybe we wouldn’t. Who would have known that in just a year, those awesome friends whom you used to talk hours to would just become a follower on Instagram who likes your photos occasionally? Or that the girl who held your hand like it was the most precious treasure ever would be just a forgotten name on your contact list?
People, like feelings, are temporary. But I believe, just like feelings, they don’t have to be. They can stay.
How I Met Your Mother has tons of amazing quotes, but this one stands out to me, especially during this moment of letting go of old things to make room for new ones:
“You will be shocked, kids, how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That’s why when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it.”
You do something about it. If you want people to stay, you make the effort. You make the phone calls. You set aside some of your time and emotion. You stay connected. It’s a matter of decision and priority, really. One important thing though, the effort to stay must be mutual.
Make the effort for the good to stay. As for the rest, just leave them. In this season of making rooms for new things, do not be too eager to settle. Don’t be too eager to stay. Reach beyond the skies, meet new people to have those adventures with, try all of the ice cream
And at the end of the day, the most important thing is to stay true to yourself, even if it means having to leave some things behind.